There has been a lot of discussion lately about the various weblogs which are targeted to teenagers. MySpace is the largest of them, with about 42 million users. Kids post pictures there - some more tasteful than others - and answer surveys - not always truthfully - outlining their interests, loves, etc.

What’s mystifying to an adult, is that kids think that these areas are private - for their eyes only. Ask a teenager if you can view his or her area on MySpace and they are likely to tell you that you “need permission.” Hello? I need “permission” to view something on the web that is there for mankind to see?? Who’s off base here?

Parents are scolded by some teens for viewing their weblog, creating unnecssary tension between parents and their teens. Parents walk on eggs while trying to keep their kids safe and smart in the way they portray themselves, and kids scold parents for snooping.

Let us remember that a few years ago these areas didn’t even exist… that would be why they have proliferated beneath the radar screen of parental awareness. But we’re on top of it now, and as the world changes, parents need to update their rule books.

Smart parents will have a look at these sites, and a good honest discussion about the potential dangers with their teenagers. Remember the smart rules for internet safety:

• Keep the computer in an open family space, NOT in a child’s bedroom.
• Limit online time.
• Be aware of how your child is spending her online time.
• Educate your teens about internet realities – these areas are not private, and it is possible to trace users if they reveal even limited personal information.
• Never talk in open chatrooms.
• Never share your password or ask for the password from a friend.
• Never pose as someone you are not.
• When talking online, only say things that you would say if you were face-to face.

I have a longer article on this important issue along with some excellent resources here:http://www.pleasestoptherollercoaster.com/articles/MySpace.html

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